Magnetic AF: How I Stopped Proving My Worth and Stepped into Soul-Led Power

I used to be addicted to proving myself.

Approval was my life force. I chased it in relationships, in work, in how I dressed, how I spoke, how I showed up on social media. I was constantly performing—crafting the version of me I thought people would love. The overachiever. The one with the aesthetic Instagram feed. The cool, fun one who you could call for just about anything—covering a shift, the plus one to the party I didn’t really want to go to, the friend who did everyone’s makeup before rushing to get ready myself and feeling less than confident because there was hardly any time left before the Uber arrived. The always-available, always-accommodating, always-smiling me.

It looked polished on the outside. But underneath?

Perfectionism.
Imposter syndrome.
A constant fear that someone would find out I wasn’t actually as “together” as I seemed.

The Patterns That Drained Me

My relationships reflected the same lack of alignment.
I kept attracting dynamics that mirrored my lack of boundaries—romantic and platonic. Imbalanced, one-sided, and sometimes even narcissistic. I’d bend over backwards for people who would barely meet me halfway. But because I was trying to prove I was “good enough” to stay, I tolerated it.

No matter how much I gave, how much I performed, it was never enough.
And I was exhausted.

Misaligned Work, Soul-Level Burnout

And it wasn’t just personal—it was professional too.
I left corporate for service industry jobs, constantly saying yes to more hours, more responsibility, more emotional labor. And while I was good at what I did, there was no soul in it.

I felt disconnected, drained, and deeply unfulfilled—like I was trading my energy for survival, not purpose.

Burnout wasn’t a fluke. It was a byproduct of constantly betraying my needs in environments that didn’t honor them.

The Breaking Point

One day, everything cracked.
I don’t even remember what triggered it. Maybe it was another underpaid workweek, another cyclical relationship, another moment where I said “yes” but wanted to scream “no.”

But something inside me snapped.

And underneath all the frustration and fatigue, I heard a voice.
Not loud. Not dramatic. Just a quiet, firm whisper:

“You don’t owe anyone anything.”

It stopped me in my tracks.
Because deep down, I knew it was true.

Returning to Myself

That was the moment everything changed.

I started coming home to myself.
Not overnight—not perfectly. But intentionally.
I began asking:

→ What do I need right now?
→ What am I doing just to feel worthy?
→ What would it look like to stop performing and just be?

I started to see that perfectionism wasn’t discipline—it was fear.
And imposter syndrome? It wasn’t evidence that I was a fraud.
It was a signal that I was living out of alignment.
Trying to embody a version of success or value that wasn’t even mine.

So I made changes:

I stopped saying yes when I meant no.
I stopped over-explaining myself.
I stopped pretending I was okay with crumbs—at work, in love, or in friendship.

I realized that burning myself out to be “liked” or “needed” was not purpose—it was people-pleasing dressed up as productivity.

Magnetic Energy: The Aftermath of Choosing Me

And when I let that all go, the energy shifted—fast.

Suddenly, I could see clearly who and what was out of alignment.
I stopped attracting dynamics that drained me.
I stopped betraying my own needs for a paycheck or a partner.
I made space for work that lit me up and people who could actually meet me.

I rooted into my truth—and let me tell you, it was uncomfortable at first.
Of course there’s discomfort in doing something you aren’t used to.
And survival will convince you that you need to go back to the very things that keep you small and confined because upsetting others is a risk and risks in general are scary but especially the risk of security can be crippling.

But then something wild happened.

I became magnetic.
Not because I was trying to be.
But because people can feel when you’re in your power.

Dream clients showed up out of nowhere.
True friendships deepened.
Love felt safer, respectful, more reciprocal.
My nervous system finally relaxed.
I felt more clear, more confident, more... me.

Love, Wholeness, and Soul-Led Living

The love I experience now is no longer rooted in lack or performance—it’s rooted in truth.
My romantic relationship doesn’t complete me—it expands me.

We’re not each other’s missing halves—we’re whole humans, complementing each other’s growth. Reflecting, challenging, deepening, becoming—individually and together.

Because when you live from your truth, you attract relationships that are truthful.
Not perfect. But real. Intentional. Soul-led.

And that same truth?
It’s the foundation of the business I’ve built.

I wake up every day and create from the heart.
I lead with intention.
I express myself freely.
I serve others through my creativity, my healing, my voice.

I’m doing work that feels aligned with my soul—healing myself with each step down my authentic path and contributing to the highest good of others.

Your Permission Slip

This didn’t happen because I figured everything out.
It happened because I stopped chasing and finally chose myself.

So if you’re tired of trying to prove your worth, here’s your permission slip:

You don’t have to.
You never did.

Your truth is enough.
You are enough.

And when you live from that place—
watch what unfolds.

This didn’t happen because I figured everything out.
It happened because I stopped chasing and finally chose myself.

So if you’re tired of trying to prove your worth, here’s your permission slip:

You don’t have to.
You never did.

Your truth is enough.
You are enough.
And when you live from that place—
watch what unfolds.

If you’re ready to step into your truth, move with intention, and create a life that’s soul-led and seasonally aligned—
I invite you to join me inside The Perennial Archetype.

It’s my intentional membership space, designed to support your evolution through the energy of the seasons, the lunar cycles, and the exact framework that helped me embody everything I’ve shared here.

Inside, you’ll find self-guided resources, ritual tools, and a community of like-minded women walking this same path—rooted, cyclical, and powerful AF.

This is where performance ends and embodiment begins.
Let’s grow into who we already are—together.