Leading As A Girl Mom: Teaching My Daughter Confidence Through My Choices

People talk a lot about parenting as a responsibility.
But what they don’t always say is that parenting is also programming.

Not in the rigid, robotic sense—
But in the energetic, subconscious, sponge-like reality of early childhood.

My daughter is still a toddler—tiny, wild, deeply present.
She can’t yet articulate her thoughts about her emotions, self-worth, or confidence.
But she feels everything.
She absorbs the energy in the room.
She registers the tone of my voice, the tension in my body, the way I speak about myself.

She doesn’t need a lecture to start forming beliefs—
She’s picking them up through the repetition of my choices.

And that realization cracked me wide open.

Because for a while, I was performing “strength” while modeling self-abandonment.
I was teaching her about self-worth while burning myself out.
I was telling her to express herself while keeping my own needs quiet.
I was unconsciously teaching her that being a woman means being exhausted, overextended, and nice about it.

And I didn’t want that to be her programming.

So I started changing the inputs.
Not overnight, but intentionally.

I began choosing rest—without apology.
I let her see me slow down.
I let her hear me say “no” when my body needed a boundary.
I started creating again—not just for money or productivity, but because it lights me up.

I started speaking about myself with more softness.
I started doing things that made me feel beautiful, wild, expressed.

Because even though she doesn’t consciously understand yet,
Her nervous system does.
Her subconscious does.

Every time I regulate my emotions, she’s learning what safety feels like.
Every time I follow my creativity, she’s learning what aliveness looks like.
Every time I take up space without shrinking, she’s learning that she can too.

Every time I choose my vision, it gives her permission to dream without limitations.

She doesn’t need a perfect mom.
She needs a present one.
A self-trusting one.
A woman who shows her, every day, that confidence isn’t about performance—it’s about embodiment.

And one day, when she’s older,
And the world tries to tell her who she should be—
I hope her body remembers what she learned here first:

That her worth isn’t earned.
That her voice matters.
That rest is her birthright.
That her desires are divine.
That she can trust herself.

Because she saw me do it.
Not perfectly. But honestly.
And that’s more than enough.

If you’re a mother, a healer, or a woman on a path of alignment—
Your growth is never just your own.

The more you honor your body, your truth, your boundaries and creativity,
The more you demonstrate what’s possible for those around you: friends, family, the next generation.

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Through the lens of the seasons, the cycles, the body, and the feminine archetypes we carry.

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Happy Mother’s Day With Love,
Kirstie